I honestly don’t even hate him anymore but because he was a big part of my life and how I ended up here I thought I’d go ahead and add a chapter about him.
When I was homeless for the umpteenth time, my mom met this really nice lady who took us in, only problem was she had this really obnoxious nephew. I hated him so much, he was a jerk to everyone, he thought he was so cool and he wasn’t.
One of my many plans to run away from life was to go to a boarding school. I left on a plane alone flying to an unknown place all by myself. I was in the ninth grade, very scared but hopeful for a fresh start. I didn’t last long at this school. It had changed a lot since my mom and grandma had gone there. It was now a school for “troubled” kids, pretty much a last resort before jail. I got lucky and got a dorm in the honors dorms, I met my roommate she seemed really nice. One day I was called in the councilor’s office. I couldn’t figure out why I was such a goody two shoes I knew I couldn’t have done anything wrong. Apparently this girl thought I was stealing from her. I was pretty much warned that she wasn’t or hasn’t always been the nice girl I knew her to be.
One day I called back home and was talking to my niece who at the time was only three. She was asking me if I had Barbie sheets, which made me miss her and I started to cry. She gave the phone to my mom who only said “I’m on my way”
Well my mom didn’t come to get me but that really nice lady and her sister and my sister and of course they really obnoxious guy I couldn’t stand did. We drove home making a few scenic stops along the way. Being in the back seat with someone for two days really makes you bond with them. We talked about everything, about our families, about how much we hated our lives, about what we wanted to be when we grew up. You know all the deep stuff fifteen year olds talk about.
I still hated him once we got home; I told everyone I hated him. I told myself I did too. A few months went by of me hating him. We talked a little, but I mostly just hated him. Well things got sucky at home so I asked my mom if I could stay with that really nice lady. Things didn’t work out like that though but that nice ladies sister said I could stay with her as long as I still hated her grandson and of course I did. A few weeks of hating him passed and we ended up making out and didn’t stop for three years.
Hate turned into like, like into lust, and lust into love. I truly loved him. I was eventually able to tell him everything all of my secrets and he told me all of his. Life was good. Until one night I had to pee, his friend was spending the night and he was sleeping in the same room as us just in the other bed. When I got back in bed with my boyfriend he wouldn’t move so I had to lay on the outside edge of the bed. We woke up and he accused me of having sex with his friend. I swore nothing happened but of course he didn’t believe me.
That should have been my red flag, I didn’t listen I just told myself it was because he loved me so much. Time went on and little things happened like a male friend lending me a jacket because I was cold and him flipping out, to me going to church with my best friend. He had the usual responses. I love you, I don’t want to lose you, and you’re the only person who cares about me. I believed him; I told myself it was just him showing his love.
We both dropped out of high school moved out and got our own place. Eventually we moved to Florida, he had family there. It was supposed to be our fresh start a life of our own. He moved there first got a job and a place. He sent me a plane ticket and I packed up what I could and left. Once again alone and on a plane headed to a place I had never been. Headed to life I was unsure of. Things were good we had a place of our own, we had a real life. I started a job and was making friends. I made friends with one guy who was about two years younger than me; he was really nice and went to church. He asked me to go to church with him, I really wanted to I had always enjoyed it. I mentioned it to him and he was furious. He told me only want to have sex with this guy. I stopped befriending people in fear of what he would say or do. A girl I talked to at work told me her mom ran a maid business and said she was ask her mom if she needed help. I got a job with her and met a nice girl a few years older than me. She was a site, she was covered with piercing and tattoos. If you didn’t know her you would probably cross the street when you see her coming. She was the nicest person so sweet and kind hearted. He didn’t like her of course. She invited me to go with her family to Sea World I had never been anywhere like that before. I asked him in front of her and of course he had to say yes. I went with her family we had such a good time. On our way home they had the roads blocked because there was a forest fire and it took us hours to get home. I came in at around two in the morning. He was up of course; he yelled at me cussed me told me I was sleeping with her.
I ended up quitting that job because he didn’t want me around her anymore. It wasn’t a few weeks later and he told me he didn’t want to be with me anymore. That he was going to start dating this lady who lived down the street who was older than his mom would have been if she were still alive. A lady who had once told me she thought of us as her own children. My sister came and got me. I went back home and I tried to forget about him.
I stayed with my mom and got a job, guys asked me out but I wouldn’t go I still loved him and felt it would be cheating even though he was with another person and I knew it. A few months passed and he started calling me begging me to take him back. After about six months I finally did. He and his uncle came and got me. He bought me roses and told me how sorry he was and how things were going to be different. I went back but I didn’t move in with him right away, I didn’t trust him. I stayed with his uncle and his uncle’s girlfriend. Of course he didn’t like this so he made problems until his uncle said I had to go.
Once at his house things were good, for a while anyways. I got another job, started to make friends. We actually hung out and spent time together. She noticed the way he treated me and she didn’t keep her thoughts to herself. She told me every day what she thought; I made excuses for him of course. Things got worse the more I started to be independent and do things without him. Of course he accused me of having an affair with her and her boyfriend. He would tell me I was fat, ugly and that no one in my family loved me because of they did they wouldn’t have let my sister’s husband do what he did. He threatened me all the time when I said something he didn’t like.
Wow I can’t even bring myself to type this part but it has to be said if I’m going to be honest. I had a lot of medical issues which is why I had the surgery from the previous chapter. It was very painful to have sex at times. I would tell him and I would beg him to stop but he never would. I would cry and just beg and plead, but he would never stop. After he would finish I would crawl, literally crawl because my stomach hurt so bad, to the bathroom. I kept this small exactor knife in the bathroom hidden. I would sit on the floor thinking about all the horrible things he said to me, thinking it’s true, that I’m this fat hideous looking monster who nobody loved. I would hold this knife against my arm and press it until right before I drew blood, sometimes a little deeper. As much as I tried I couldn’t do it. All I could think of was my niece and nephew and how would they understand what happened to their aunt.
One day we were at a friend’s party and the lady he left me for came in the house looked at me and said “hi” with a big smile across her face. I left that was the last time I seen him. He called of course begged me to come back told me how much he loved me, how I was the only person who has ever cared for him since his mom died. I told him I was sorry about his mom but I couldn’t let myself be treated this way. I told him I hoped he found someone to love and that he learned how to treat her. I told him that I loved him and that I would always care about him.
I wonder sometimes if he ever changed, if he ever realized what he did wrong. I hope he learned his lesson. I hope he changed his ways. I hope he found someone he loves and they live happily ever after.